Module 2 Quiz

Maria (She/hers): Maria is from Spain, and arrived in Vancouver about 12 years ago. She was sponsored by her husband Juan, and they have an 8-year-old son, Marc. Since separating from Juan in March, Maria has been living in a transition house in Surrey. The transition house workers are helping her to connect with English classes, and she has started working at a nearby restaurant. Maria was seriously assaulted by Juan, which resulted in the police being called. The police removed Juan from their home but did not charge him. Maria says she feels safe in the transition house. Although she says that Juan used to get angry if she asked for money, lately he has been nicer and has been dropping off gift cards for her. He even e-transferred her $100 because Marc’s birthday is coming up.

True or False: Maria is safe right now, and the risk of violence is quite small.

Charli and KC were together for about the last four years, and they share no children. Soon after getting together, they moved to Nelson because Charli had family in the area and could get a modest rental. It took time for them to settle in Nelson, and because of that, Charli has a Visa bill of about $14,000 from the move, and KC has about $5,000 in debt. They have a joint savings account containing about $3,000. They also have a 7-year-old Kia Soul that is worth about $6,000 that they put in KC’s name, but it was purchased from their shared savings. Charli has paid all the maintenance and insurance for the vehicle.

Charli and KC regularly fought about money during their relationship. KC was a little freer with money and wanted to eat out once a week or have little luxuries. Charli preferred to save and wanted to prioritise [MM2] paying off their debts. When they disagreed, KC would ignore Charli’s opinion and spend the money.

Eventually, they had a major argument, and Charli asked KC to leave. KC has taken all of the funds from the joint account. Now every time Charli tries to talk about dividing their shared debt, and especially trying to get KC to transfer registration of the car, this results in an argument that escalates into KC yelling at Charli. Charli is afraid to raise the issue again.

As with many clients, Charli’s experiences don’t fit neatly into a particular model or type of violence. Which description(s) of violence could characterise [MM3] Charli’s situation?

Check all that apply

Sue married her high school sweetheart Sam about 18 years ago. After they finished university, they settled down in Kamloops as Sue had grown up on the Kamloops reserve (Sue is Secwepemc). Sam adored Sue – he would drive her to and from work and sometimes call during the workday.

A few years after their marriage, Sam started working for the RCMP. After he returned from Depot (RCMP Training), Sue noticed Sam was different. He was still charming and affectionate toward her when they were with his friends (Sue seems to have lost touch with her friends after they got married), but he became increasingly gruff in his demeanour at home. He started to drop by Sue’s work unexpectedly and told her many times that he would be unable to live without her. Sue rarely sees her auntie any more as Sam does not get on with her.[MM4] 

When Sue became pregnant with their two children, Sam encouraged her to take time off, and Sue was happy to be able to look after her babies. However, once Sam was the sole earner, he started to be more critical of how Sue spent money. Sam felt that since he was earning the family income, he should be able to buy things he wanted like a new snowmobile one year, and an expensive mountain bike the next, but he was frequently angry if Sue spent too much on groceries or if she wanted to go out to the movies. Sue returned to work 11 years ago when her children were three and six, but Sam continued to manage the family finances.

Sue left Sam five years ago. When she first left, Sam tried desperately to convince her to get back together with him. He sent flowers to her work and promised to change. He told her that he wanted to take her on vacation to Hawaii to get away from it all.  He left her multiple voice mails crying, and claimed he would kill himself if she did not come back. The calls continued even after Sue told him to stop contacting her.

After Sue told Sam that she wanted a divorce, he fought her at every turn, including refusing to provide her with disclosure of the family finances. Sue eventually got an order for child support based on an imputed income, but Sam hasn’t paid regularly, and has periodically applied to have his child support obligations reduced. Sue has largely given up on receiving regular child support. Sam has also become openly hostile to Sue. Sue has been on medical leave for the last two years and her children are now telling her that she’s “lazy” for not working, which is the same thing that Sam says to her. Sam recently filed yet another [MM5] court application to reduce his child support. Sue is exhausted and she is not sure whether she should go to Court to fight the application or not.

What description of violence best describes Sue’s situation?

Same scenario as the previous question

Sue married her high school sweetheart Sam about 18 years ago. After they finished university, they settled down in Kamloops as Sue had grown up on the Kamloops reserve (Sue is Secwepemc). Sam adored Sue – he would drive her to and from work and sometimes call during the workday.

A few years after their marriage, Sam started working for the RCMP. After he returned from Depot (RCMP Training), Sue noticed Sam was different. He was still charming and affectionate toward her when they were with his friends (Sue seems to have lost touch with her friends after they got married), but he became increasingly gruff in his demeanour at home. He started to drop by Sue’s work unexpectedly and told her many times that he would be unable to live without her. Sue rarely sees her auntie any more as Sam does not get on with her.[MM4] 

When Sue became pregnant with their two children, Sam encouraged her to take time off, and Sue was happy to be able to look after her babies. However, once Sam was the sole earner, he started to be more critical of how Sue spent money. Sam felt that since he was earning the family income, he should be able to buy things he wanted like a new snowmobile one year, and an expensive mountain bike the next, but he was frequently angry if Sue spent too much on groceries or if she wanted to go out to the movies. Sue returned to work 11 years ago when her children were three and six, but Sam continued to manage the family finances.

Sue left Sam five years ago. When she first left, Sam tried desperately to convince her to get back together with him. He sent flowers to her work and promised to change. He told her that he wanted to take her on vacation to Hawaii to get away from it all.  He left her multiple voice mails crying, and claimed he would kill himself if she did not come back. The calls continued even after Sue told him to stop contacting her.

After Sue told Sam that she wanted a divorce, he fought her at every turn, including refusing to provide her with disclosure of the family finances. Sue eventually got an order for child support based on an imputed income, but Sam hasn’t paid regularly, and has periodically applied to have his child support obligations reduced. Sue has largely given up on receiving regular child support. Sam has also become openly hostile to Sue. Sue has been on medical leave for the last two years and her children are now telling her that she’s “lazy” for not working, which is the same thing that Sam says to her. Sam recently filed yet another [MM5] court application to reduce his child support. Sue is exhausted and she is not sure whether she should go to Court to fight the application or not.